Category: Meditation

Primary Pain vs Secondary Pain

By Christian Staal

Psychologists distinguish between two types of pain:

  • Primary pain relates to a specific event (e.g. worrying about a job interview)
  • Secondary pain is emotional gasoline thrown into the fire (e.g. being sad/angry/worried about being worried)

Secondary pain accounts for more misery than primary pain. You can reduce secondary pain by accepting – rather than fighting – primary pain (one way to train this is meditation).

What do you carry? (Puzzle.blog)
The Upside of Your Dark Side (book) by Robert Biswas-Diener and Todd Kashdan

“Crap, I’m thinking”

By Christian Staal

When you’re meditating, and realise that you’re lost in thought, it’s easy to get irritated. But this is not a moment of defeat: Becoming aware of your thoughts is the very goal of meditation.


What do you carry?

By Christian Staal

Two Zen monks, Tanzan and Ekido, were walking, and saw a woman who was trying to cross a road. The road was muddy, and about to ruin the woman’s silk kimono. Tanzan picked her up, and carried her to the other side. The monks continued, and after five hours, Ekido asked “Why did you carry her across the road? We monks are not supposed to do things like that.” Tanzan smiled, “I put the woman down hours ago. Are you still carrying her?”

Do you still carry something from your past, which you ought to let go?


Adapted from A New Earth (book, p. 139) by Eckhart Tolle

Let It Go (song) from Disney’s Frozen

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