Thanks to those of you who responded to my latest post. Puzzle.blog will continue, but at a slower pace. Instead a new post every week, there will be new posts once in a while.
Most people assume that getting what we want (promotions, romance, world domination) will bring us happiness. But in most cases the effect is short-lived. This is because of The Hedonic Treadmill: Humans rapidly adapt to new circumstances, and therefore take things for granted, once we have them. The bright side is, that this same mechanism protects us, when something bad happens.
If you want people’s attention, there are two methods you can use:
Which method are you using?
Noticed vs. missed (article) by Seth Godin
Imagine asking a chess master about the best possible move in chess:
Asking about the meaning of life is the same thing. There is no universal meaning of life – it depends on the circumstances of your life.
Man’s Search for Meaning (book) by Viktor E. Frankl (I totally stole the analogy from this brilliant book!)
Psychologists distinguish between two types of pain:
Secondary pain accounts for more misery than primary pain. You can reduce secondary pain by accepting – rather than fighting – primary pain (one way to train this is meditation).
When conducting a post-mortem, you look at what went wrong (why did the patient die? Why did the project fail?). In a pre-mortem you imagine that your project has failed, and then ask yourself:
Performing a Project Premortem (Article, Harvard Business Review) by Gary Klein
A traveller came upon two bricklayers, and asked them what they were doing:
Your perception of your work influences your motivation, productivity and happiness. Are you laying bricks, or building a cathedral?
Tony Robbins’s RPM-model helps you stay proactive in tough situations:
R – Results. (What do you want out of this situation?)
P – Purpose. (Why is this important to you?)
M – Map. (Write down everything you can do to achieve your desired results. Then identify the 20% that will produce 80% of the results.)
Problem: You have a decision to make, but can’t make up your mind, because you don’t know what you really want.
Solution: Turn the decision on it’s head. Ask yourself which problem you prefer to live with (which negative consequences are you best equipped to handle?). In some cases, this exercise gives you a new perspective.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck (book) by Mark Manson